You may not have a sign on your desk “The buck stops here,” but that is the truth of your job. How well those who report to you perform, whether or not you meet your quotas, deadlines, or client expectations – all these are your responsibility, and certainly, you have the skill set, the aptitude for it.
But is your mind-set up to the challenge? Because research which surveyed 740 leaders nationally and internationally, found that 94% of them stated they perform best when calm, happy and energized – as opposed to (for example) depressed, frustrated or anxious.
Now that sounds like common sense, doesn’t it. After all, who’s going to perform at their peak when depressed, frustrated or anxious? And yet, ask yourself, how do you come in to work every day: worried? stressed? anxious? Uh-huh, I thought so.
So how can you get yourself into that “calm, happy, energized” place without living in massive denial or on major meds?
Simply put, start by recognizing when you’re not. Check in with yourself: if you’re anxious or frustrated, you’re not calm. If that’s common for you, take up a mindfulness practice, yoga, whatever helps you maintain calm more often. Happy is largely a matter of reflecting more on the glass half full than how utterly depleted it looks. And energized is easier to springboard off of calm and happy, than it is off of anxious or depressed. Healthy eating and exercise habits help too.
Beyond that, reflect on the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer (with or without the word “God,” whatever fits for you): “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
It’s a great re-focusing and calming affirmation.