For the longest time, it was believed that feelings, emotions, were inappropriate in the workplace; we were told to “leave it at home” – with the obvious exception of happiness at the company’s success, or the displeasure managers were expected to convey over poor performance or productivity.
But that has changed. It is increasingly recognized that people who are suffering or upset bring that upset to work with them, and “sucking it up” isn’t good for the person or the business.
If anything, research reported by Professor Jane Dutton suggests that when people experience compassion at work – a recognition of their pain – whether they are the recipient of the compassion, the giver of such, or just a witness to the compassion, feelings of commitment to the organization increase, as does employee engagement!
Yet businesses are not meant to be “group therapy” – there’s work to be done! So how can you show compassion to an employee or co-worker going through a rough patch, without turning yourself into Dr. Phil?
Professor Dutton suggests: ““Rather than worrying about fixing someone’s pain, simply taking the time to see their pain, to inquire, to empathize and to listen without judgment, can be an act of compassion at its best.”
None of which takes much time or energy, just a caring and respectful attitude toward the pain of your fellow human being. No Dr. Phil-ing required.